May 16, 2012
Self-Confidence Child: Confidence and Sexuality
Sexuality, sex talk, dirty pictures on cell phones, inappropriate videos on YouTube, hit TV shows about pregnant teenagers, plunging necklines and bared navels worn by middle schoolers—no wonder parents are so concerned about their children! How are parents to protect their children from becoming sexualized too early?
It seems as if our kids are not allowed to be, well, kids—for nearly long enough. The development of self confidence, of a positive self image, is the best tool parents can give their kids. In this day of shrinking incomes, cutting back of school sports and after school programs, parents working longer and harder to keep their jobs, it falls to the parents to fill the void that the cancellation of these organized sports and enrichment programs has created. Texting, IM’ing and Facebook are not substitutes.
Self-Confidence in Children: The Steps
• Established a good bedtime routine—regular bedtime and your child in his/her room all night (see Good Nights Now and Matilda & Maxwell Good Night)
• Developed workable family schedules based on rules, not commands then you need to use tried and true activities to occupy your kids, so they can actually be kids in a healthy, wholesome environment.
Three steps to build a Self-Confident Child:
1. Family game night: have one night a week where the family plays board games, charades, or any other activity that doesn’t employ electronic devices.
2. Limit computer, Ipad, and cell phone use. Children need to be involved in physical activity
Examples: Outside play, sports, gymnastics, dance, soccer—things that keep them moving.
Nearly 1 out of every 3 children is obese; this is a real confidence killer!
3. Make sure to talk with your children; you need to know what’s happening in their lives.
Asking what they did at school or the dance will result in a one word answer. Try, “What’s the best thing that happened at school, today?” or “What’s the best thing that happened at the dance?” You will be surprised by their response.”